There is so much hate in this world and you will hear it said everywhere to be kind! Be kind to your elders, family, friends, strangers, just be kind to everyone! One person they always forget is you, be kind to yourself!

So, are you? Are you being kind to yourself? It’s not that hard to do, yet it so difficult at the same time! We tend to focus so much energy on everyone else,  it we can’t forget ourselves! Remember what the airline stewardess always says, “put on your air mask first, before helping others!” The same thing should be said with kindness! Be kind to yourself first and then it will just be easier and better when you give that kindness to others!

Sometimes it is hard to find ways to be kind to yourself so here are some ways you can do that!

You know the saying “we are our own worst enemy” and it’s so true, but why not try bringing out your inner advocate! You have an inner critic, why not an inner advocate?! That little critic in your head that is so eager to judge and ridicule you should really meet your inner advocate, the one who will stick up for you! The one who cheers you on and argues on your behalf!

Do you hear the way you speak to yourself? Are you your biggest fan, or your worst critic?

If you wouldn’t talk to your child (or any loved one) the way you are talking to yourself, it’s time for a change. Be your own cheering section… and if you catch yourself talking yourself down, for every negative, minimizing, or degrading thought, make it a practice to acknowledge at LEAST two strengths or amazing things about yourself!

You need to take good care of yourself to be your best self! It’s always easier said than done, but it can be done! Make sure that you get down time! You may not get 8 hours of sleep, I can’t remember the last time I actually got a good restful sleep, but at least a few hours is good too! Always have an escape to relieve stress! Oh and don’t forget to eat some yummy fruits and vegetables! Always allow yourself some “me time” and it’s not selfish to do this, it is very much needed time that everyone needs!

Tough day? Get into an argument with someone? Messed up at work? Have a day where nothing goes right? Whatever it ma be that caused you to have a harder day than normal, take time to rest & recharge!

Give yourself some recognition! New are always to quick to acknowledge other peoples achievements, but are slow to acknowledge our own! We need to start celebrating our accomplishments as well! When you do something you are proud of, stop, take a minute and say “great job”! Be as happy for yourself as you would be for others that do great things you like to celebrate!

Stop trying to be perfect! Perfection is unachievable! Instead, try to improve small areas one step at a time! You are just setting yourself up for disappointment in trying to achieve perfection! You can always improve in areas and try to be a better person!

Learn to accept yourself as you are! You are stronger and smarter than you think you are! You will fail, you will be wrong at times! You need to learn to embrace all of that and be who you truly are! Try to believe in yourself more, that is all part of being kind to yourself! Have more faith in yourself and all that you can do!

Don’t forget to remind yourself of your good qualities! You have a lot of good qualities even if you don’t recognize them all because they are different than what you perceive as good! Cut yourself some slack in your mistakes! You will make mistakes and fail at things! Try not to be too hard on yourself! Tell yourself that it’s going to be okay! Learn form this experience and make a plan on what to do so you can do better the next time!

If you have trouble being kind to yourself, I feel  best way to feel way to do it is  to imagine that someone you love is feeling hurt. What would you say to that person? How would you treat them? How would you comfort and reassure them?  Start treating yourself like that!

Remind yourself that you are enough! You will not be for everyone! Not everyone will like you! But remind yourself that it’s okay!  Remind yourself that you can and deserve to be happy! You deserve to have everything you want! You don’t anyone any explanations! You continue to work hard and enjoy your life and yourself!

In the end there is only one person In this world that you will always be around and always have a relationship with, and that is yourself! You need to start reminding yourself that you are amazing! You need to make sure you are a good companion for yourself! Be kind to yourself!

There are 6,775,235,741 or more people in the world. Why let one ruin your life? Most importantly don’t let that person be you!