Why did you let that happen?
Why did you stay?
Why can’t you just ignore them?
Why didn’t you just leave?
Those questions are very commonly asked of people who let bad things happen to them and they don’t leave or do something about the situation they are in!
The answers is so very complicated, yet so simple at times! We don’t think that we deserve any better, or they are too scared! It’s not a good answer but it is the truth! The simple truth is that you will never understand unless you have dealt with it! It’s sad that in most cases people just won’t get it any other way!
Whether it is physical or emotional abuse, there is no need for it yet it happens to people every day! How someone can just decide one day to be that cruel to someone is beyond me, I will never understand!
Someone who so incredibly mad enough to hurt someone has some really huge issues! I am so against any form of abuse on any person or animal, especially someone who can not fight back!
But when you have to be subjected to so much of this kind of behavior and abuse you tend to keep going back for more because that is normal life!
People will say if it’s hurting you or bothering you, just walk away! Just turn off the computer! Just block them! Just ignore them! Just don’t answer the phone, just do this…
It’s not that easy and unless you deal with it, you won’t know! You are scared that they might hurt you or someone you love if you don’t put up with it! These people threaten you enough that you think they may actually do something, and/or the prove that they will do something! So you are too scared to run! You are so used to this kind of life that if would be wrong to walk away! Sometimes they only get extremely mean when they have been drinking and when they are done with you and sober, they kiss up to you and put forth so much effort to make sure that you are going to be okay and not leave. You just so caught up in the love that you almost forget they way they were just previously acting! There are times when you know that you should get out and escape, but you get so scared of what might happen if you try. Sometimes you are so convinced that you are worthless and nobody else would want you that you have no reason to leave.
Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. There are more ways to be in contact and get emotionally abused. Whether it be in person, over the phone, by text or online, heck it can even happen by mail! You can not just simply escape these people, it is not as easy as just ignoring them! They threaten to hurt you, your friends and your family! They are so convincing in their ways that you can’t just simply escape and you can’t always hide from these type of people! They always find a way to get to you! If by some miracle you do get away, they will always haunt you in your dreams or mind! You may forgive at some point, but you will never forget, and sadly it will follow you and most likely ruin future relationships.
Unfortunately there are cases where you seek help and nobody believes you. Some cases where the people you love and have know your whole life go and believe a total abusive stranger than you and they say it is your fault you are in that situation! Some cases where they all choose to ignore the signs until it is too late!
Not all situations have a bad ending, some do have good endings, but even then you are stuck with scars forever, both visible and non-visible!
I may have not explained and gotten my words down completely correct, but I believe you can get the picture of it and some explanation without going into a lot of details that it is never as easy as saying “leave the situation”. I so very much wish it were that simple!
Were you able to escape an abusive situation/relationship?
Do you know someone who has escape or wasn’t able to escape?
What do you do when the one you are supposed to run to for comfort and help is the one who makes you cry?
I just want you know…
You are braver than you believe!
You are stronger than you seem!
You are smarter than you think!
You are loved more than you know!
Keep fighting and never give up!